We all know that, wedding planning can get stressful, especially when family gets involved. It can drive you crazy.
One minute you’re choosing your dress or picking a venue, the next minute, your aunt is complaining that she wasn’t “carried along,” your mum is not happy with the colour of the aso ebi, and your future mother-in-law wants to invite her entire friends.
Family drama during wedding planning is more common than you think, especially in this part of the world where everyone thinks their opinion must count.
But the truth is, you can survive it and even enjoy your planning season if you know what to do.
Let’s talk about how you can stay calm and in control, no matter the drama.
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Accept That Drama May Happen
First things first, don’t be shocked when drama shows up. It’s not always personal. Sometimes it’s just different personalities clashing. Once you accept this, it’s easier to stay calm.
Set Boundaries Respectfully
Yes, you love your family. But you also need peace of mind. Set limits on who makes decisions, who gets involved, and how much you want to share. Say something like, “I really appreciate your input, but we’ve decided to go with this option.”
Pick Your Battles
Not every fight is worth having. If your mum wants the bridal train to wear purple instead of lilac, ask yourself, is it worth arguing over? Sometimes it’s better to let small things go and save your energy for the big stuff.
Communicate Clearly
Don’t assume people know what you want. Be clear about your plans and decisions. Talk to both families early so they feel included but also so they don’t start assuming things and causing confusion.
Use a Wedding WhatsApp Group Wisely
If you must involve family in planning, create a small WhatsApp group where updates can be shared. But don’t let it become a complaint center. Keep it focused and drama-free. If things start getting out of hand, pause the group or take certain convos offline.
Don’t Let Culture Pressure You
Yes, tradition is beautiful. But don’t let it overwhelm you. If something doesn’t sit well with you or your partner, talk about it. Look for a respectful way to balance culture and your personal wishes.
Stick Together With Your Partner
You and your partner must be on the same team. Support each other, make joint decisions, and don’t let your families turn you against each other. If one side of the family is stressing you, your partner should be the one to talk to them, and vice versa.
Take Breaks When It Gets Too Much
Sometimes, you just need to step back. Go for a walk. Watch a movie. Wedding planning should not steal your joy or peace. Take care of your mental health.
Remember What Truly Matters
At the end of the day, it’s not about the colour of the cake or who sits in front. It’s about two people choosing love and a lifetime together. Keep your eyes on the bigger picture.
Final Words
Family drama may be unavoidable, but how you handle it is up to you. Don’t let the noise steal your joy. Protect your peace, speak your truth, and enjoy your special season.
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